Way To Be

In the case of the at work romance? what do you do when your supposed "date" has not only not been acknowledged as such but has been dismissed with no explanation. What is the correct response because after all much is at stake in terms of your reputation should you err and respond incorrectly. Do you come right out and ask why your phonecall wasn't even returned or does that make you sound too needy? Do you ignore the whole thing and act like you too believe your "plans" were made of thin air or does that make you seem too blase? Do you continue to smile and banter as if the whole "possible" romance thing is no big deal at all or does this indicate that you really couldn't care less? Whatever you do, be sure that you do not walk around hang dog like feeling forlorn and unable to muster even the ghost of a smile when your paths cross. You must show outer strength at all times never even hinting at the deep sense of utter confusion you continue to feel not only when women simply open their mouths and speak but when they act or do not act in a way that you expect them to. You are actually between a rock and a hard place. You must continue to try to decipher the codes so that you will not be known as a quitter. At the same time you must not expect any in detail clarification, explanations, excuses etc. etc. etc. You must learn to accept that you will never really understand at all but if you are to have even the smallest of successes, you must at least pretend to have an interest and appear to be "trying"!