Feedback

All self-help gurus advise us to seek feedback in instances when there is a negative end to an interview and we have not been selected for a position we had applied for. This appears to be easier said than done and the masses usually take the rejection and move on to the next without ever asking what they might have been able to do differently that could have resulted in a different outcome. It occurs to me that the power of feedback is such that it should be encouraged in most situations where we seek to ensure positive rather than negative outcomes. Having a handle on self-improvement is indeed an empowering thing and wherever possible we should be brave enough to request feedback because although it can sometimes make for difficult listening, it is sure to enrich most of our future endeavours both within and without the working milieu. How cool would it be to ask for feedback in the dating arena? Just suppose that you meet someone with whom you are contemplating a relationship and while there are those starter flames, for some inexplicable reason they flicker and extinguish before you get to see the fire. Instead of hearing that you two are probably not a "fit" and letting things go, you'd be best advised not to go quietly and or gently into the night but to ask for "feedback"! If you do, you'll know if the "fit" is there the next time you see sparks fly.